Anonymous asked: Hello I'm going to be a junior in high school and I want to start swimming on my school's team. However my friend already swims there and if I join I don't want her to think I'm barging in on 'her thing'. Can you help me please ;u;
Okay, so I would treat this tenderly. I want you to talk to your friend explain to her that you want to start swimming and give her reasons as to why. Just be firm and gentle. As I have said before on here, if this is something you want to do you have to be willing to fight for it. If your friend gets upset give her time but don’t give up swimming. The team is defiantly big enough for the two of you. I’m sure that if she does get upset she will realize that she doesn’t own the team and that it is open to everyone. (Since you can’t really monopolize something as big as a swim team) If she is a really understanding friend, and really a true friend, she will probably welcome you into the team with open arms.
A team is a family, and new members are added constantly, that’s the whole thing with a team. It is a group experience, you bond in that water half naked together. You become a unit, and that is what is so awesome about a team. It is a community, a home, a safe place for everyone who wants to swim to be a part of a family. But as with families not everyone agrees with a marriage or a new baby, but over time they grow back into the family and accept all the new ones. If your friend is able to accept the new freshmen to the team she sure as heck should be able to accept that you want to swim too. I want you to sit down with her and let her know you are joining so she can at least mentally prepare herself if she is opposed to it. But she CAN NOT tell you you can’t join, okay? The only person who can stop you from joining is YOU no one else (well maybe a doctor) This is something you want, and you have to be willing to be mature, as does she. Be ready to mend a friendship if needed, but look hopefully towards her being open to you joining. You will join because you want to, not for her, not for the sexy bods in speedos but for the love of the sport. I don’t know your reasons for joining but I’m assuming you like swimming. Join for you and no one else.